Coping Toolkit
Motherhood is full of emotions. These emotions don’t mean you’re failing, they mean you care.
Click each card to reveal the reframe that can
help you breathe easier, feel seen, and move forward.
Guilt
“I should be the one doing this.”
You are doing it, just with help. That’s strength.
Jealousy
“She only wants the nanny.”
Feeling safe with someone else is a sign you built trust.
Overwhelm
“They need me all day. I have nothing left.”
You don’t need to give 100% all the time to be a good parent.
Resentment
“Everyone else gets to work or rest, not me.”
Your needs matter too. They don’t disappear in motherhood.
Fear
“What if I’m doing it all wrong?”
Uncertainty means you care. You’re already showing up.
Shame
“A good mom wouldn’t feel this way.”
Good moms feel everything. That’s part of the job.
Inadequacy
“They deserve someone more patient than me.”
Your presence, not perfection, is what they need most.
Burnout
“I just want to disappear for a day.”
You need care too. Exhaustion isn’t failure, it’s a signal.
Loneliness
“No one really sees what I’m going through.”
You're not alone. Other moms feel this too, even if they don’t say it.
Grief
“I miss the version of me before motherhood.”
Mourning old versions of yourself is part of growing into the new.
Anger
“Why am I the only one doing everything?”
Anger shows something needs to change, not that you’re broken.
Helplessness
“Nothing I do seems to make it better.”
Some days are heavy. That doesn’t mean you’re not helping.
Disconnection
“I don’t feel bonded like I thought I would.”
Bonding is a slow build. There’s still time. There’s always time.
Guilt Due To Work
“I’m choosing a meeting over a moment with my kid.”
Providing for them is showing love. That’s part of your care.
Guilt Due To Help
“Do I really need a nanny for just a few hours?”
Support doesn't need justification. You're allowed to breathe.
Relief + Guilt
“It’s nice to step away… but should it be?”
Enjoying space doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human.
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