The Check-In
No scores. No right or wrong answers. Just six honest questions worth sitting with before something quietly stops working.
The Hours
Are you clear about the hours your nanny is working: start time, end time, total hours per week? Or has that become something you both just assume?
The Team
Are both parents on the same page? Or does your nanny receive different instructions, different standards, different reactions depending on who is home? Mixed messages are hard to follow for both kids and caregivers.
The Job
Has the role itself changed since you first agreed on terms? More responsibilities, different tasks, or maybe less of what was originally agreed e.g. children in school more, but housekeeping quietly added in its place?
The Notice
When something changes; the schedule, a day off, a shift in plans; do you give your nanny enough notice? Or does she find out when it's already happening?
The Conversation
When something isn't working, how long do you wait before saying something? And when you do, is it a conversation or something that comes out sideways?
The Pay
When did you last talk about pay? And does it still reflect what the job actually is today, not what it was when you first agreed on it?
These aren't easy questions. But they're easier to ask now than after a good nanny has already decided to leave.
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